Tuesday, May 24, 2011 Posted by Dina N
STORIES AND SOLUTIONS FROM GOOD MORNING AMERICA'S ADVICE GURU
It happens without warning, and it devastates you: Your closest girlfriend cuts you off completely. No more late-night phone calls and emails, no more catch-up lunches and dinners. She has decided for whatever reason to move on with her life and has left you to try to make sense of what happened. The experience can be as painful as the death of a loved one and as confusing as an unexpected breakup with a significant other. You replay scenes from the friendship and wonder what you did wrong. You've lost a loved one and you don't know what to do.
Now, What Did I Do Wrong? gives voice to this painful, common, yet rarely discussed phenomenon and provides a resource — and some answers—that you can rely on. Relationship expert Liz Pryor has had a number of these breakups herself, and so she set out to discover why they were happening in order to help herself — and others — get through the pain and prevent it from happening again. Through personal interviews and her popular website, lizpryor.com, Pryor collected hundreds of stories of friendships gone wrong. She draws on those stories to explore the dynamics of friendship breakups in a candid, intimate way, revealing the patterns, the warning signs, and some ways to put a friendship right or help it change so that it meets your friend's and your changing lives. She also explains how to end a friendship — if you find that you need to do so — in ways that honor both parties' feelings and your history together.
Like the best kind of girlfriend — one who really will stay friends forever — Pryor blends plain, old-fashioned, feminine good sense and good humor with genuine empathy for the thousands of women who live with the confusion and anxiety that linger after the sting of an ended friendship. What Did I Do Wrong? will validate your feelings and inspire you to be more forthright and compassionate with new and old friends. You will be moved and uplifted by the many stories of strong friendships, broken friendships, and renewed friendships that make this book a treasure of women's wisdom and experiences.
Reading Liz Pryor's book, What Did I Do Wrong?, is like listening a good friend. She tells stories of friendship between women - the good, the bad, and the ugly - with utter honesty and understanding. Ms. Pryor has interviewed many women about their female friendships, and especially about how these friendships end. She encourages readers to look more closely at their own relationships. Sometimes, women outgrow their friendships - and that's OK, as long as they treat their friends with the respect and openness they deserve. Ms. Pryor shows how to find closure and the strength to move on when a friendly relationship no longer works. She gives practical advice that's easy to understand and to follow. It is my hope that if you read her book, you'd think twice before allowing women close to you fade away from your life unnoticed - or you from theirs.
What Did I Do Wrong?: What to Do When You Don't Know Why the Friendship Is Over is new this month from Free Press, a division of Simon & Schuster.
Disclaimer / Disclosure: I received a complimentary copy with no obligation for a positive review. No compensation - monetary or in kind - has been obtained for this post. Photo and book info courtesy of the publisher.